You must learn aloneness before you relate with people. You must be very, very comfortable with yourself. If you are someone who cannot be with herself comfortably, easily, gladly, then kindly spare the other person. If you are not alright with yourself, then don’t start piggybacking on the other—and usually it is that way. You go to the other precisely because you are not okay with yourself, which is not good.

At the same time, you must remember that we will have to relate with each other; we are not going to live insulated, isolated. We are going to be related, but the relationship has to be healthy. You should not become a burden on the other. You should not become a carrier of pathology to the other.

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